Bonding: Who needs it?

Relationships are fundamental to human experience. Our earliest relationship begins with our caregivers, the emotional impact this first relationship makes paves the way for successful bonding in future relationships. A defining trait of a healthy adult is emotional stability, knowing this, a sure way to kill a relationship is with emotional unpredictability as this behaviour makes it difficult to enter into the vulnerability stage needed before bonding can occur. Trust is the defining characteristic of healthy bonding.

Humans and Pets Alike

Oddly, we can correlate the world of dog training with human relationships, as dog trainers would agree that pets become neurotic with lack of direction, or with owners who neglect to provide clear commands. Dogs become confused with inconsistent training, and if left too long in this state, can become untrainable. Pets need direction, just like healthy relationships need boundaries. Relationships require boundaries to be maintained in order for them to thrive, this means getting through the vulnerable stage of a relationship knowing one is emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially, and mentally safe with the party one is choosing to bond with.

Consistent Stability Required

How this relates to our earliest relationship encounters, is that in healthy environments caregivers provide the experience for us to validate our emotions, resulting in the development of self awareness well into our adult life. This provides instruction for the use of assertion, as well as discernment in later life circumstances. When one is aware of their inner emotional experience, they can relate, or are more capable of reading the emotional presence in others, this ability is called empathy. Empathy is a vital component of healthy relationships that requires active participation and communication.

Crippling Dysfunction

Where things go wrong is when a parent has not developed these skills, and is not emotionally healthy enough to provide a stable environment for a child to learn relationship skills. When a parent is not in touch with their own emotional wellbeing, they cannot bond successfully with their children. Children may witness parents in tumultuous relationship as a result of this, which may leave them with emotional regulation disorder that could pervade for generations if left untreated.

Breaking the Chain of Abuse

Education cancels out the cycle of abuse, getting educated about emotion contributes to transcending levels of consciousness. As one becomes more aware of their internal experience, they are able to ground themselves in place and time more soundly. This also enables an individual to experience more empathy when communicating with others. This is vital when caring for children, as patience versus control is vital for children to learn to think critically. It is important to take a step back, and allow our children to explore ideas on their own, without projecting our own beliefs, or opinions to them. This encourages a developing mind to think.

Positive Outcomes

Parenting is no easy task, nor is mastering relationship to self, however, a sure way to raise healthy children is to give them an example of a healthy person. Show them what unconditional love is, including the spectrum of joy, patience, peace, happiness, and they become content enough to experience self-actualization.

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